Research Shows that 85% of us are Living with the Effects of Low Self-Esteem and a Lack of Self-Confidence, Resulting in Frustration and Unfulfilled Potential.
What's the big deal about self-confidence?
The observation by William James, that most people live in a restricted circle of potential, holds no less true today than when he made it over a century ago. The reason that so many people never fulfill their potential is not a lack of intelligence, opportunity or resources, but a lack of belief in themselves. Or to put it another way, too little self-confidence. Without it, you can do little, with it, you can do anything!
But what is confidence, anyway?
Often people think of confidence as something that the lucky few are born with and the rest are left wishing for, but that’s not true. Confidence is not a fixed attribute; it’s the outcome of the thoughts we think and the actions we take. No more; no less. It is not based on your actual ability to succeed at a task but your belief in your ability to succeed.
- Your belief in your ability to speak in front of an audience
- Your belief in your ability to learn a new skill set
- Your belief in your ability to be a leader
- Your belief in your ability to handle confrontation or manage conflict
- Your belief in your ability to change career path, or start a new business
- Your ability to exit an unhealthy relationship
- Your ability to live a healthy lifestyle
It's been long established that the beliefs we hold – true or otherwise – direct our actions and shape our lives. The good news is that new research into neural plasticity reveals that we can literally rewire our brains in ways that affect our thoughts and behavior at any age. Which means that no matter how timid or doubt-laden you’ve been up to now, building self-confidence is largely what psychologists call a volitional action. Or to use layman language: “By choice.” With consistent effort, and the courage to take a risk, we can gradually expand our confidence, and with it, our capacity to build more of it!
Of course, confidence can wax and wane throughout our lives. It’s boosted when we experience a win or receive praise. It takes a hit when our efforts fall short of the mark, we’re criticized, rejected or simply feel a lack of external recognition. We’re only human after all. It’s therefore vital not to become overly reliant on external affirmation to prop up our self-worth but to take ownership for taking the worthwhile actions needed to sustain it. Which begs the question:
How do you build the confidence needed to overcome your challenges and achieve your goals, particularly when you don’t first succeed?
The following FREE eBook "How to Boost Your Self-Confidence" will help clarify several common roadblocks and help you on your journey to being more confident.
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The Total Wellness Team