How to Survive Failure

Let Failure be Your Stepping Stone to Success

   

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Boxers know that the outcome of a fight is determined before the actual fight. Your chances of winning are based on how much training you put in versus your competition. What's more, it's based on your mental attitude. If you're scared of your opponent or if you're too 'in your own head' then you will be more likely to lose. You'll be more likely to fail.

The same goes for pretty much everything in life. Your chances of victory or failure are based on the way you prepare for the event and the outcome then just 'plays itself out'.

And that's why planning can help you to survive every situation.

How to be Ready for Failure

The problem is, that too many of us plan only for victory. We make plans based on the assumption that everything will go well and that we will have good fortune. This is a result of a generally positive attitude but it's unfortunately not always the smartest move.

What's smarter than is to make sure you're also prepared for the various contingencies. What will you do if you lose your job? How will you cope if your partner leaves you? What will you do if the project you've been working on falls through?

This is an attitude that is always taken by businesses because they know it's smart to plan for failure. They will have plans of action based on new releases going well but also just as many that are based on them going badly. Likewise, they will have plans for things go 'just okay'.

By being ready for every possible outcome and contingency you will always be ready to deal with situations as they arise and nothing will catch you unawares and unprepared.

Making Plans

When making your plans, it can often be a good idea to think of them as a flow chart. Rather than a to-do list, a flow chart works better because it takes into account the fact that situations can change and are uncertain. Your plans should take the form of an 'IF' and 'THEN' approach.

To do this, you need to apply a little imagination in thinking of the things that could go wrong. You need to make contingencies not only for likely outcomes but also those that are perhaps less likely. As such, it can also help to look back at past failures and to assess them honestly.

By doing this you will have a plan for dealing with every possible scenario. You'll survive any failure and you'll be confident no matter what happens.  So we encourage you to internalize the idea that failure is not the end but may simply be your beginning.  Here are a few examples of where failure wasn't the final chapter.

 

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  • Steven Spielberg. His cinematic output has grossed more than $9 billion and brought him three Academy Awards, but the master of the blockbuster failed to be accepted twice when applying to the University of Southern California's School of Cinematic Arts.
  • Oprah. She’s a billionaire with her own TV channel and a penchant for giving away cars but Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first TV job as an anchor in Baltimore.
  • Walt Disney. Can you imagine your childhood without Disney? Well it could easily have been if Walt had listened to his former newspaper editor. The editor told Walt he ‘lacked imagination and had no good ideas’. Undeterred, Old Walt went on to create the cultural icon that bears his name.
  • Albert Einstein. His name is synonymous with intelligence yet it wasn’t always that way for Albert Einstein. As a child he didn’t start speaking until he was four, reading until he was seven, and was thought to be mentally handicapped. He went on to win a Nobel Prize and altered the world’s approach to physics. I guess he was just thinking of the right thing to say for those first four years.
  • R.K. Rowling. Before there was a wizard, there was welfare. Rowling was a broke, depressed, divorced single mother simultaneously writing a novel while studying. Now one of the richest women in the world, Rowling reflects on her early failures:

 And the list goes on and on -  from Michael Jordan, Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Edison, Vincent Van Gogh, and so on.  

 Moral of the story :  Don't let failure be the reason you fail,  but ratherthe beginning of your success.  

 

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Find Your WHY and You Will Discover Your Purpose

Your Feet Are Not Glued to Your Current Path

Find Your Reason For Change

 

If you are like so many people, you've set out on a course in life only to discover down the road that you're not passionate about what you are doing. You're working, maybe you even have a "good" job, and from the outside looking in, it appears that you've got it made.

But you know within yourself that something's wrong. You're not happy. Going to work every day feels like a punishment. You can't wait to get off for the day, and you just dread the thought of going back the next day.

 STOP - It is time to identify what is creating your "self-defeating" paralysis. 

 There's a myth that the course you set out on in life is your forever path. People change. What you thought was going to be a sure thing back when you were younger can be different today because you're different. You’ve grown and matured.  Maybe you see things that you don’t like about your career, or maybe you don’t like the path you are on as a whole.  Don't be the one of many who ends up trudging to work every day stuck in the life that you can't stand. 

What you do with your life should reflect what you love - within your passion lies your purpose
— Unknown

Just know that if you have been unhappy in your job for a period of time the unhappiness will bleed into every corner of your being: mental health, physical health, financial, and all relationships.  

GREAT NEWS: 

YOU CAN MAKE CHANGES AT ANY STAGE OF YOUR LIFE AND FIND PERSONAL SATISFACTION AND HAPPINESS

It just takes the willingness to step out of your comfort zone and discover your WHY.

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What is your "WHY"?  It is your passion, your dream,  your reason behind your actions. 

If you don’t have a strong REASON behind your actions, your actions are less likely to create worthwhile results.

BUT ... If you have a strong “WHY” you have all the FUEL you need to drive you forward – to find your freedom, to live your dream, and to fulfill your purpose

You see if you don’t know what your why is, if you don’t know what DRIVES you, what INSPIRES you, then you have NO REASON to improve your life as you know it.  Seriously, why would you try to improve your life if you have no REASON for change?  So ask yourself these hard questions, 

  • Why do I exist?
  • Why am I unique from everyone else?
  • Why do I wake up and get out of bed each morning? 

Is your WHY your family? Is it to prove the doubters wrong? Is it to change your corner of the world? Or is it to fulfill what you have been called to do by a higher power?  Regardless of what your WHY is - it is critical to find it and claim it.  

So, What is your Why?

Write it down and carry it with you everywhere, FEEL IT DEEPLY, and promise yourself everyday you WILL live out your WHY with NO EXCUSES!

 Once you know your why - It is time for action.  Take the next crucial step to understanding the "WHAT"  

  • What legacy do I want to leave behind?
  • What does my current support system look like? If you are being weighed down by negative, toxic nay-sayers, it is time to kick them to the curb.  
  • What is my life mission statement?
  • What actions do I need to take in order to accomplish my mission?
  • What time frame will I need  to accomplish each task?
  • What measurable will I use to monitor my progress? 
  • What motivation strategy will I use?

 And finally - 

  •  What will I do with all my new found freedom and happiness?  

It is hard to make changes.  In fact,  it can be down right overwhelming,  but when you discover and live out your "WHY" the benefit outweighs the risk every time.  If you are feeling stuck I would love to help you move forward.   You deserve it! 

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Cheri Tillman

 

 

Executive Director Co-founder MBA, CLC, CWNC