9 Rules - Success and Happiness

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We all seek happiness. Add these 9 rules to your life and watch your dreams become reality.

Rule 1:  Know who you are - Be true to yourself

 There is no one just like you.  Your path to success is uniquely yours.  Let go of your  dated ideas about yourself that you may have adopted from the past, especially if they keep you from evolving into your best self.  Bring meaning to your life through intention and choice.

Rule 2:   Hold a clear vision - Follow your NorthStar

Reflect on what you envision for your life, aligning it with what inspires and feels meaningful to you. The more clarity you have about the kind of life you want and the person you want to be, the easier it will be to stay motivated.  Take consistent steps forward making your vision a reality.

Rule 3: Understand your mind. - Unleash your true self

Much of your perception and beliefs grew out of your earliest experiences and  interactions with your families, culture and the media. Learn to distinguish between the beliefs and ideas that support you and those that limit you. Perception does not always reveal truth.

Rule 4: Take control of your thoughts - Thoughts become matter

Thoughts are among the most powerful creative tool you have. Therefore, it’s crucial to be aware of negative thoughts before they take root and develop into destructive patterns or behavior. Through awareness, conscious choices and determination, you can redirect your life by releasing disempowering self-limiting thoughts and cultivating positive ones.

Rule 5:  Choose what is essential - Life is built on choices

Be aware of how you spend your time and energy, as every decision you make influences the direction of your life. We are all born with gifts and talents as well as challenges and limitations. The way we choose to work with these blessings and trials determines our success.

Rule 6. Be consistent. - Baby steps lead to big results

 Consistency will help build momentum and form new habits for success. Break your bigger goals into smaller tangible ones that are time sensitive.  Turn your smaller goals into monthly, weekly, and daily task to make them all doable.  Checking off daily goals not only gages progress but also increases confidence, resulting in motivation to continue.

Rule 7.  Surround yourself with inspiring influencers - Lift each other up.

You are influenced by the people you choose to spend your time with. Surround yourself with individuals who encourage you to be and do better. They should be people you look up to and trust, people who help drive you forward on your personal path to success.

Rule 8. Live mindfully -The power of the present

 We spend much of our time on auto pilot, missing the depths of our precious life. Living with more mindfulness requires you to observe and participate with awareness and without the filter of judgment. The more present you can be from moment to moment, the deeper the connection you will make with yourself and others, enabling you to live life more skillfully and with greater appreciation and wonder.

Rule 9. Stay the course - Tread the path daily

Success isn’t something you attain - it’s something you live. While working toward your outer goals, it is necessary to be aware of who you become internally  in the process that’s more important. Stay focused on cultivating the inner qualities of success; living with integrity, self-discipline and patience; valuing yourself and others; reserving judgment; practicing compassion and having gratitude towards the gifts already present in your life.

Total Wellness offers a variety of tools to help you take each of the above rules from concept to real life application.  We would love to become a part of your success. Let us knowhow we can help you - simply fill out the form below and we will respond promptly. We answer all inquiries.

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How To Boost Your Self Confidence

Training Your Brain To Be More Confident is Possible

We are on a mission to help our clients become more self-aware, more confident, and find balance in their lives.  Although our clients come to us for a variety of reasons,  we find that over 85%  are dealing with challenges within clarity of identity,  self esteem,  and/or  self confidence.  In addition to recently publishing an eBook  (see below free offer) to you  understand and improve self confidence, we also want to share any quality articles or science based findings to help you with your journey.   

Today I read an excellent article written by Bruna Martinuzzi for American Express that  is worth sharing:   

JULY 30, 2018 To succeed in business today, whether as a leader, manager or business owner, knowing how to boost your self-confidence is paramount. A lack of confidence may prevent you from pursuing opportunities or taking risks to help you grow.

Confidence is a strong sense of self. When you have self-confidence, you signal to others that you believe in yourself and your ability to deliver results. As a leader, confidence enables you to lead powerfully. When you approach others with confidence, you increase your chances to engender trust and respect.

If you're looking to improve your self-confidence, it's important to note that this is not something you can achieve overnight. However, there are some actionable steps that you can take.

 Pursue excellence, not perfection.

The definition of perfectionism is "the setting of unrealistically demanding goals accompanied by a disposition to regard failure to achieve them as unacceptable and a sign of personal worthlessness." Pursuing perfection can lower your ability to boost your self-confidence because you would be judging yourself against impossible standards.

By contrast, consider pursuing excellence in everything you do. Aiming for excellence means setting and meeting the highest standards that are reachable. Knowing that what you're doing matches the highest standards boosts your self-confidence. Chasing perfection, on the other hand, lowers your confidence because it creates doubt and anxiety as you try to reach unrealistic standards.

Do you have a tendency toward perfectionism? Consider these three tips:

  • Create a list of the services you provide to internal or external customers.
  • Consider what's required to be outstanding in each of these services.
  • Now create a plan to tackle each of these areas in a way that surpasses ordinary standards.
  •  Invest in your competence.

The adage "fake it till you make it" can lead to feeling like a fake rather than feeling genuinely self-confident.

Instead, you can boost your self-confidence by focusing on increasing your competence in the central areas of your work. Become good at what you do. It's one of the most direct ways to boost your self-confidence.

Moreover, once you reach a certain level of competence, consider raising the bar on yourself. Raising the bar leads to continuous improvement over time.

How else can you invest in your competence?

  • Be honest with yourself about what you don't know. Create a personal competency framework and spend time increasing your knowledge or skill in the areas that need attention.
  • Research your area of expertise to learn new trends and new ways of doing things. The world is dynamic and changing. Falling behind can erode your confidence.
  • Sharpen the saw by attending some online courses which are now available in almost any subject.
  • Read as much as you can—not only in your area of expertise, but for general business knowledge as well. Even if you're very busy, you can subscribe to a book summary service to improve your professional skills and boost your self-confidence are just a few of the services available.

Learn from your own experience.

  • After a significant event, such as delivering a major presentation or doing a sales call with an important client, reflect on the experience.
  • Take a sheet of paper, label it "lessons learned" and capture everything you've gained from the event. For example:
  • What part of your performance went well? That's what you don't want to forget so that you can repeat it the next time.
  • What didn't go as well? What do you need to avoid doing the next time?
  • What do you need to do differently or better to take yourself to the next level?
  • What do you need to abandon altogether?
  • Not taking the time to reflect and capture the lessons may limit your ability to learn from your own experience. Self-confidence is a quality we gain above all from repeated successful experiences.

 Stop the self-harassment.

Self-harassment is when we persistently berate ourselves for any failures, whether real or perceived. Instead of severe self-criticism, consider practicing self-acceptance which can help boost your self-confidence. How can you do this?

  • Start by raising your self-awareness so that you can exercise self-control. Just how many times in a week do you belittle your efforts, blame yourself for events, or speak harshly to yourself? Self-criticism becomes habitual, and we hardly notice it. Catch yourself in the act. Self-awareness precedes self-management.
  • Develop an accurate assessment of who you are. What do you do well? What do you do not so well? Notwithstanding this knowledge, accept yourself unconditionally. To achieve this, set an intention to appreciate yourself for who you are.

  • Remind yourself that you're in control of your self-development. Work on ironing out any rough edges or doing whatever it takes to improve what needs to be improved.

Prepare, prepare, prepare.

Preparation is a key to boosting your self-confidence. When you're prepared, you tend to feel less pressure. Preparation gives you a feeling of being in control. It can give you a head start so that you can think and act your best.

Let's take the example of going to a meeting. Meetings are often events that can put a dent in self-confidence because you're observed and possibly judged by your lack of contribution.

To build your confidence in a meeting:

  • Never go into a meeting unprepared. Be prepared to contribute to the discussion even if you're not scheduled to speak.

  • Try to find out the meeting topics in advance, if possible. What are your ideas about the meeting topics?

  • Prepare a question or two that you might ask. Leaving a meeting with a feeling that you've contributed to the discussion can be a big confidence booster.

Beware of the comparison trap.

When you measure yourself against others, you may rob yourself of the confidence that comes from believing in your abilities. Cultivate an inner trust based on doing the right things for yourself, your staff and your business. If you look to the success of others, do it to learn rather than to measure yourself.

When it comes to comparing ourselves, self-comparison is essential. Are you better today than you were yesterday? Compare your progress with where you were when you started. By focusing on even small improvements that you've made in your skills and abilities from day to day, you may start to see your self-confidence surge.

Learn from the best to help boost your self-confidence.

  • Find out who are the best people in your line of business and study what they do. Think about them, read articles about them and watch their performances. Follow them on social media and research everything about them that you can.
  • What can you learn from these people that can help you reach the same level of success in your field? Once you've determined what they do, consider how you can even surpass them.

Even the most confident people can sometimes find themselves in situations where they doubt themselves. Everyone needs some tools in their toolkit to boost their self-confidence. Self-confidence is key to having the mental edge that helps you success.

Read original article at: American Express / Small Business

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Why YOUR BUSINESS SHOULD CREATE MIND MAPS and 5 EASY STEPS TO HOW

Working Your Brain the Way it Was Created to Work

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Methodical doodling, Mind Mapping, is today’s "science-based" creative business planning. This mind liberating process is a highly effective way of getting ideas in and out of your brain. Mind Mapping is a creative and logical way of taking notes of  thoughts that literally "maps out" your ideas, resulting in data your mind can understand.

Science shows that mind mapping improves your memory, writing, and organizes your thoughts, not to mention it makes for a much more creative and well thought out presentation.

All Mind Maps start with a core axel while the ideas radiate outward by using lines, symbols, words, color and images according to simple, brain-friendly concepts. Mind mapping converts a long list of information into a colorful, memorable and highly organized diagram that works in line with your brain's natural way of doing things.

 Mind Mapping experts from Mindmap explains it like this,

“One simple way to understand a Mind Map is by comparing it to a map of a city. The city center represents the main idea; the main roads leading from the center represent the key thoughts in your thinking process; the secondary roads or branches represent your secondary thoughts, and so on. Special images or shapes can represent landmarks of interest or particularly relevant ideas.”

What I love about Mind Mapping is I do not have to have any order to my thoughts, which works great for my randomness, as soon as an idea pops into my brain I put it in the map. No need to worry about thinking in any particular order. Simply, throw out any and all ideas, then worry about reorganizing them later.

 The General Flow of a Mind Map

  • The main idea, subject or focus is crystallized in a central image
  • The main themes radiate from the central image as 'branches'
  • The branches comprise a key image or keyword drawn or printed on its associated line
  • Topics of lesser importance are represented as 'twigs' of the relevant branch
  • The branches form a connected nodal structure

How to Create Your Mind Map

  • Think of your general main theme and write that down in the center of the page. (i.e. food)
  • Figure out sub-themes of your main concept and draw branches to them from the center, beginning to look like a spider web (i.e. meats, dairy, breads)
  • Make sure to use very short phrases or even single words
  • Add images to invoke thought or get the message across better
  • Try to think of at least two main points for each sub-theme you created and create branches out to those

Another amazing thing about Mind Mapping is you can Mind Map about anything, anywhere, anytime.  Try using this with your personal goals, your family goals,  this is also an excellent tool for kids.

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Find Your WHY and You Will Discover Your Purpose

Your Feet Are Not Glued to Your Current Path

Find Your Reason For Change

 

If you are like so many people, you've set out on a course in life only to discover down the road that you're not passionate about what you are doing. You're working, maybe you even have a "good" job, and from the outside looking in, it appears that you've got it made.

But you know within yourself that something's wrong. You're not happy. Going to work every day feels like a punishment. You can't wait to get off for the day, and you just dread the thought of going back the next day.

 STOP - It is time to identify what is creating your "self-defeating" paralysis. 

 There's a myth that the course you set out on in life is your forever path. People change. What you thought was going to be a sure thing back when you were younger can be different today because you're different. You’ve grown and matured.  Maybe you see things that you don’t like about your career, or maybe you don’t like the path you are on as a whole.  Don't be the one of many who ends up trudging to work every day stuck in the life that you can't stand. 

What you do with your life should reflect what you love - within your passion lies your purpose
— Unknown

Just know that if you have been unhappy in your job for a period of time the unhappiness will bleed into every corner of your being: mental health, physical health, financial, and all relationships.  

GREAT NEWS: 

YOU CAN MAKE CHANGES AT ANY STAGE OF YOUR LIFE AND FIND PERSONAL SATISFACTION AND HAPPINESS

It just takes the willingness to step out of your comfort zone and discover your WHY.

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What is your "WHY"?  It is your passion, your dream,  your reason behind your actions. 

If you don’t have a strong REASON behind your actions, your actions are less likely to create worthwhile results.

BUT ... If you have a strong “WHY” you have all the FUEL you need to drive you forward – to find your freedom, to live your dream, and to fulfill your purpose

You see if you don’t know what your why is, if you don’t know what DRIVES you, what INSPIRES you, then you have NO REASON to improve your life as you know it.  Seriously, why would you try to improve your life if you have no REASON for change?  So ask yourself these hard questions, 

  • Why do I exist?
  • Why am I unique from everyone else?
  • Why do I wake up and get out of bed each morning? 

Is your WHY your family? Is it to prove the doubters wrong? Is it to change your corner of the world? Or is it to fulfill what you have been called to do by a higher power?  Regardless of what your WHY is - it is critical to find it and claim it.  

So, What is your Why?

Write it down and carry it with you everywhere, FEEL IT DEEPLY, and promise yourself everyday you WILL live out your WHY with NO EXCUSES!

 Once you know your why - It is time for action.  Take the next crucial step to understanding the "WHAT"  

  • What legacy do I want to leave behind?
  • What does my current support system look like? If you are being weighed down by negative, toxic nay-sayers, it is time to kick them to the curb.  
  • What is my life mission statement?
  • What actions do I need to take in order to accomplish my mission?
  • What time frame will I need  to accomplish each task?
  • What measurable will I use to monitor my progress? 
  • What motivation strategy will I use?

 And finally - 

  •  What will I do with all my new found freedom and happiness?  

It is hard to make changes.  In fact,  it can be down right overwhelming,  but when you discover and live out your "WHY" the benefit outweighs the risk every time.  If you are feeling stuck I would love to help you move forward.   You deserve it! 

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Executive Director Co-founder MBA, CLC, CWNC

7 Ways To Generate More Leads in Your Business

Take Control of Your Success

    No matter what business you are in, you need prospects. You need people to market to, in the hopes of turning those leads into customers. Businesses both online and off can benefit from the following 7 you ways to generate more leads to fill your sales funnel, build your email list and hopefully turn into cash-paying customers.

1 – Start a Podcast

It seems everyone has a blog, but few marketers have podcasts. Video and audio podcasts can engage your audience much better than a text-based approach.

2 – Have Twitter Do the Work for You

FollowerWonk.com helps you analyze the behavior of your followers on Twitter. You can also find industry influencers and connect with them, find out what time your followers are the most active on Twitter, and reach the people that are interested in your niche.

3 – Publish Information Frequently and Regularly

Imagine these two scenarios. You have 2 almost identical websites offering similar products and services. It looks like either site can help with your situation. One website publishes an informative blog post, videos and a podcasting episode every week. The second site rarely updates its content. Which one will you do business with?

Adding information to your blog or website frequently, and on a regular schedule, improves your chances of connecting with your audience.

3 – Harness the Power of Information Databases

Data.com is just one of many websites where you can find potential leads for your business. You have access to company contact information and other relevant data which allows you to target exactly the businesses and individuals who are the perfect prospects for what you are offering.

4 – Develop a Presence on LinkedIn

LinkedIn has hundreds of millions of regular users. It is a professional version of social media sites like Facebook or Pinterest, offering several ways to publish material that you can use to drive serious business professionals back to a landing page or lead generation funnel.

5 – Answer Questions on Q & A Sites

People online flock to websites like Quora, Yahoo Answers and WikiAnswers to ask questions about any and all topics. This is a way to prove yourself as an informed leader in your field. The search engines on these sites allow you to target a particular question or topic, and when people see your answers, you can lead them back to your website.

6 – Record Helpful Videos

There are dozens upon dozens of video sharing sites that attract millions of frequent users. YouTube and Vimeo are just two of the many web properties where you can host videos where you solve real problems in the lives of your prospects. Video "connects" with your target market much better than text-based content.

7 – Host a Contest

Contest-hosting sites such as RaffleCopter, WooBox and PageModo help you run a simple contest on social media sites. When people think they have a chance to win a valuable prize, they will sign up to your email list or newsletter. A veteran strategy here is to offer consolation prizes to everyone who does not win a main prize.

 

If you are interested in learning more about how to promote your business please reach out to us at Total Wellness Resource Center and ask for one of our Executive Coaches.  We love helping people find their sweet spot of success.

 

Ode to a Holiday Office Party

 

"The Holiday Christmas Party"  oh we have all been there - the laughter, the music, the drinks, a time to let your hair down and celebrate ... But before you throw on your holiday sweater  - BEWARE there are risks to all that "fun".  Don't let the word "Party" fool you - this is still WORK. 

Over the years in my career (call it wisdom or maturity) I learned alcohol should never intermingle with any work activity - from after hour gatherings to business dinners.  However, during the holidays we are more susceptible to letting our guard down and “throwing caution to the wind” or should I say "throwing your career to the wind". Instead of seeing your holiday party as a "Party" see it as an opportunity because you are invariably socializing with senior executives with whom you do not interact on a daily basis. Make an effort to break away from your comfort zone and introduce yourself to those who might help your career and avoid the one thing that could end it. 

Ode to the Holiday Office Party

Twas the night of the party, 

 and all through the staff

Brilliant minds started wondering, 

"Do I drink or just pass?"

The answer was clear,

true and tested with time

drinks around co-workers

Is crossing the line. 

Yet Fred from accounting

cozied up to the bar

While HR stood watching- 

"Would he take it too far?"

When all of a sudden there rose such a clatter

Ol' Fred's holiday drinking

Was now HR's matter

And then in a twinkle

Fred's career took a dip  

Instead of a raise

he received a pink slip

So remember all you staffers

 "Do I drink or just pass?" 

Reputations are forever...

Office parties don't last.

  Cheri Tillman

Ugh - Wasting Your Time in Meetings Again?

Four Steps to Making Meetings Productive

Let's face it - people hate meetings, and for good reason. They take up time that could be better spent on producing actual outcomes.

Coming from the corporate world I have had my share of meetings - many of which left me frustrated and behind schedule. In fact, it is probably safe to say we have all sat in a meetings where we attempted to hide our eye rolls, as we looked away from the facilitator and glanced at our watch anxious to get back to the deadlines that waited for us.

But meetings don’t have to be that way.

Before scheduling a meeting consider the following:

  • Is a group meeting really necessary? If so, who and why do they need to be there?  Keep in mind, pulling people from their daily responsibilities is costly, so make certain your meeting is result driven.
  • What do you want to accomplish?  Have clear goals and objectives.
  • Be prepared.  Productive meetings MUST have purpose, structure, and timeline flow. 
  • Follow -Up.  Nothing is worse than spending an hour out of an already busy day and not seeing the results from the effort. 

When meetings are necessary and the right stakeholders are in attendance you should use the ORID framework to focus the conversation. Questions are powerful tools for gathering information, sparking introspection, and arriving at decisions. 

Setting the Framework Utilizing the ORID Questioning Method

Among the many benefits of the ORID framework is that it provides you with a “checklist” to guide the discussion while addressing all of the different learning preferences of the participants. It is these four stages of questioning that give us the four types of questions you need to use to move meetings forward and achieve the desired results.

  • Objective
  • Reflective
  • Interpretive
  • Decisional

Your goal is to guide the group through the entire process without solely focusing on one and jumping to conclusions without a full perspective.

 O - Objective

Reveal Facts and Reality

Objective questions are used to draw out facts, data, and observable reality. The purpose of objective questioning is to ground the participants which helps to later recognize that there may be different assumptions, interpretations, and perspectives involved shaping reality.

Some Objective Questions you can use to set the context:

  • What is the history of the situation?
  • What facts do we know about the situation?
  • What words, phrases, or pieces of data stand out? (When reviewing data in a presentation)
  • What are the deliverables or what are we trying to achieve?
  • What resources do we have?

R- Reflective

Draw Connections

Reflective questions elicit our relationship to data. They allow participants to explore feelings, emotions, and personal connections to a given situation. They also tend to surface our immediate response. Emotional data is often not acknowledged in the business setting; however, emotions are important data and should be taken into consideration when making a decision; they strengthen and support the decision. Ignoring reflective responses will jeopardize the decision.

Some Reflective Questions you can ask after the objective data has been explored:

  • What does this remind you of?
  • How does this make you feel?
  • What did you find new or refreshing?
  • What surprised or delighted you?
  • What feels most challenging or worries you?

I- Interpretative

Uncover Deeper Meanings

The “So what?” interpretive questions help participants make sense of the situation by examining values, assumptions, significance, and implications. These questions prompt critical thinking and analysis.

Some Interpretive Questions you can pose to the team for reflection:

  • What have we learned so far?
  • What does this mean for us?
  • How might this affect our work?
  • What more do we need to know or further explore?
  • What insights have we unearthed?
  • If we got a chance to do it again, what would we do differently?
  • What are some of our strengths and weaknesses – how do they help or hinder us with this situation?
  • What are the issues underlying the current challenge?
  • What patterns did you see among similar events?

D — Decisional

Discovering Solutions

Based on information coming from the three previous stages of questioning, this is the stage at which a decision is produced. The key question at the decisional stage is: What are we going to do? You might set the scene for this critical question by recapping the findings of the previous three stages. The focus of discussion in the decisional stage focuses on the future. 

  • What would be the best course of action? 
  • What would be achievable, positive outcomes? 
  • What is realistic given the limitation of our resources?

 

Whew - you made it through a well-structured meeting.  Now what?  Just as every meeting must start with clear objectives they must end with clear deliverables.  Your team has spent the last hour coming up with solutions to drive the business forward so make certain they see the results of their efforts. 

  • Create a follow up email outlining the key objective of the meeting
  • Include a list of action items needed to accomplish the solution
  • Assign individuals who will be responsible for each action item
  • Set due dates and hold each person accountable for delivering the results.

When your team realizes each meeting has purpose and results in a productive outcome and will help them accomplish their job more effectively they will come to the meeting eager to participate.

Happy Meetings