Buddy Meets “Way of the Dog”
For those who are just joining us on this journey with Buddy he is our 90 plus pound bundle of K9 energy who was rescued from wondering the streets of Southern California and chosen by Cheri to become her service dog.
Buddy has many of the qualities to become a great service dog. These are:
Willing to please
Lack of aggression
But he is like a raw gemstone that needs to be cut and polished to show off its innate beauty. And just like people’s strengths come with corresponding weaknesses so Buddy’s attributes had some rough edges.
Intelligence: Because Buddy is highly intelligent he is naturally looking for ways to get what he wants and needs from us, often in inconvenient ways. He also gets bored easily and LOOK OUT WHEN A ROTTIE/SHEPHERD GETS BORED!
Willing to please: Buddy is highly social and constantly wants our attention. This can become very, very trying. Ever had a 90 pound dog who all he wants to do is sit on you?
Endurance: Buddy has seemingly boundless energy which is great for our 10 mile hikes. The downside is if he doesn’t get the exercise he needs he becomes a 90 pounds bullet speeding through the house knocking over anything or anyone in his path. Or he becomes JAWS and chews whatever he can get a hold of.
Size: Well that speaks for its self – great for feeling safe walking down the street but hard to control when he gets a full head of steam.
Lack of aggression: Buddy is a scared-e-cat. Yes, for all his bad ass dog looks he’d rather run than fight. This is a problem when we’re on walks and he sees something that he thinks is dangerous (like a blowing leaf or kids playing soccer)
Let’s face it we’re over our heads in the dog training department. Although Cheri worked with Clifton, a highly trained Guide Dog, for over two years the training that got him to that place was done long before she and Clifton became partners. We don’t know the first thing about how to make Buddy into a Service Dog. So we began our search for the right trainer.
Our first encounter was with a delightful lady who came to our house for a couple of hours. She soon had Buddy sitting and staying and other tricks. We were very impressed. But when she left all the issues that made living with Buddy so hard were still there. Buddy is so intelligent that he can learn just about any trick in minutes but what we need is a way to relate to him that goes far beyond treats and puts Cheri in the position of innate authority. In other words, we need to become the pack leader and our authority needed to be there with or without treats in our hands.
That brought us to Brian Lee and “Way of the Dog”.(see the link below for more information) Brian is a no-nonsense dog trainer who tells it like it is. Our first meeting with Brian went something like this.
Us: We can’t seem to control Buddy. Everything we do just gets him more riled up.
Brian: (looking at Buddy and then looking at us) That’s because Buddy owns you and is basically having a party at your expense. He’s the ultimate “party animal” taking belly shots off you.
If you know me you know I had to have this explained since I’m not acquainted with barroom behavior. What he meant was Buddy was in control and having a great time. We were the miserable dutiful servants cleaning up after his messes.
Brian explained that until we understood Buddy’s mentality and he saw us as his leaders we were never going to have the dog we wanted.
So we went to a dog trainer to get trained! Now my counselor “Spidey Sense” was alerted. Maybe this is not all about Buddy – Maybe we’ve got to go deeper in who we are if we are ever going to help Buddy experience his full potential. What we’re heading into is not just a course in dog training but in revealing the weaknesses in our own personality. Dogs like Buddy are acutely sensitive to us and they know when we’re authentic and when we’re putting on a show. In a lot of ways training Buddy will be like putting a mirror up to myself and seeing who I truly am. He is the ultimate litmus test to see if I can become the leader he needs me to be which will have an impact on every other area of my life.